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What Is Pegging | Pegging Sex Tips

Pegging Advice | Pegging Instructions

 

There are some straight men that like anal play. There are also some straight men that are into ‘pegging’ or for the newbies this term alludes to ladies fucking men in the ass with strap-ons. But it’s not just about strap-ons and there’s far more complexity involved within this – just as intercourse should never be the be all and end all of hetero penetrative sex. One sad point to move beyond is the idea that having fun with anal sex or any kind of anal play makes you gay. I have some sensitivity for this point – I feel both sympathetic and angry. If you genuinely believe that enjoyment of any kind of anal sex or play must inherently make you gay, you are so far withdrawn from the realities of sex and sexuality that you can barely be criticized.

 

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There are still a tremendous amount of individuals who don't have the faintest idea about the distinction between sex, or sex, or sexuality, or orientation, or trans or bi or les or queer. I need to acknowledge that a few individuals are going to take a gander at anal sex and think "gay" on the grounds that that is the manner by which gay has been made open for so long. I take it from this point of view: being gay is something that exists in your psyche. Not everybody who is gay likes or takes part in anal sex. Enjoying anal sex/play implies that you've had nerve endings animated and you then experience joy.

 

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Enjoyment is a separate concept to sexuality, in much the same was as loving guacamole doesn’t mean you love Mexican food. This doesn't imply that everybody will appreciate anal sex. Contrary to what some commentators out there say, I do not believe that this is or should be considered anything other than a sexual expression and is by no means relevant to a man’s ‘sexuality’. By that I mean just because a guy lets his girlfriends or wife fucks him doesn’t mean that he is any less straight than other guys – if you are insistent on thinking like that then you’re going to miss out on a lot of things in life. That kind of dichotomy whereby sexuality is suggested by ones inclination to anal play reduces sexuality to such a simplistic notion that it becomes ridiculous. Pegging is a natural expression that both partners must be comfortable with. As one man states when being interview about his pegging adventures with his girlfriend

 

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‘She enjoyed it more psychologically – the idea of being a ‘male’ and fucking and I enjoyed it more physically. Prostate stimulation is intense and orgasmic’

What this comment reveals is two things – first the woman’s interest and secondly his own interest. The female interest in this comment comes from the idea of flipping the gender in order to become a boy – kind of like imagining what you’d do if you had tits for a day. It’s about seeing what the other side does and then living up to that fantasy. For the female, in this story, it’s about her penis-envy. This is her psychological enjoyment – the empowering feeling of being a ‘male’ and acting that out. His liking towards pegging is about the physical enjoyment, the physical feeling of being fucked. He doesn’t mention about being fucked by a girl, nor does he want to be fucked by a guy. He merely comments that the act of being fucked is enjoyable. That doesn’t make him gay. He goes on to state that;

 

‘Letting my girlfriend fuck me in the ass didn't make me feel any less masculine or her any less feminine, but it did allow me to feel a vulnerability that I’d not felt before’

This comment of his is revealing that he didn’t feel any less of a man for being fucked. Sure, pegging is not everyone’s cup of tea – but it as extension on anal play that can be fun and exciting for everyone involved.

If you’re interested in pegging there’s a few things you’ll need to consider.

 

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As with any introduction to a new form of sexual play – you’ll need to bring it up with your partner first and slowly introduce the idea into the bedroom. If you’re both already into anal play – this introduction should be a relatively smooth transition, otherwise you’re going to have to start from the basics of anal play. Once you’ve covered that, you’re ready to move onto selecting a strap on.

For first strap on there’s two main things you’ll need to consider. Firstly, your comfort. Secondly, her comfort. There’s nothing worse than getting a strap on you can barely fit in your ass and keeps falling off her every time she thrusts. You both need to enjoy this and therefore you’re both going to have to find something you both like. Think of it like this – your girlfriend has picked out lingerie that she feels comfortable and sexy in VS you’ve picked out ill-fitting lingerie that she hates and is never going to feel attractive in it.  The toy is only half the battle – the rest of the battle lies in one’s ability to feel confident and sexy with their new ‘tackle’. There are two types of strap ons you can consider – actual strap ons with straps or strapless strap ons like the feel doe range.

 

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The feel doe range is one of the very few strap ones that provide stimulation for both the wearer and their partner. It is inserted vaginally and is held there by the pelvic floor muscles (you’ll need to make sure yours are up to scratch) and it vibrates for pleasure on both parties. This type of model is quite pricey though and as mentioned, you may need to invest in some Kegal balls if your muscles aren’t up to scratch.

 

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When you’re first beginning out you might want to invest in something simple like the love rider range in the above photo. The love rider range has vibrating functions, a soft belt and the attachments are generally standard cock sized! It is the ideal beginner toy especially if you’re on a budget. What’s even better is that the attachment on this is made of a silicone – which is prefect for anal play and for safe and hygienic anal play. Once you’ve finished using it as a strap on – sterilise it or whack a condom over it and use it as a standard dildo! I’m all for versatility.